25 Big Questions to Ask Your Parents Before They Die

These 25 questions can help you understand your parent’s life, motivations, and even how they would like to be remembered.
25 Big Questions to Ask Your Parents Before They Die

The perfect time to spark a conversation about life, death and the potential afterlife is… well, there’s no time better than the present! If you’d like to learn more about your parents, you can print this page, or invite the whole family ‘round and turn it into a fun after-dinner game. Whatever you choose to do, the power of a great conversation is bound to bring you all closer together. 

We’ve split our suggested questions into categories, so you can pick and choose the juiciest ones, and make your own game out of it. Of course, as you might expect, these conversation starters can get pretty deep so feel free to skip any questions that don’t feel quite right.

Questions to ask about childhood

  • What is your first memory?
  • Who was your childhood best friend?
  • What was your favourite food growing up?
  • What were your parents/grandparents/siblings like when they were young?
  • What were your favourite subjects at school?
  • Career-wise, what did you want to be when you were younger?
  • What do you miss most about your childhood?

Questions to ask about love

  • Who was your first crush?
  • Who was your first love?
  • How many times have you been in love?
  • In your experience, what is the best way to heal from heartbreak?
  • At what moment did you know you were in love?
  • What’s the secret to a happy relationship?

General life questions

  • If you could have worked in any career, what would you have chosen and why?
  • Do you have any regrets? If so, what are they?
  • Is there anything you’ve always wanted to do but still haven’t done? What's still on your bucket list?
  • What decade, in your opinion, was the best time to be alive? (ie. The 80s)
  • What has been your biggest challenge in life? 
  • Do you live by a certain mantra? What is it? 

Religion, spirituality and legacy

  • Do you believe in God?
  • Do you believe in guardian angels?
  • What do you think happens when you die?
  • Was there a moment in your life that has stuck with you all these years?
  • How would you like to be remembered?
  • Are there any traditions you would like our family to keep doing after you die?

Wrap up

Sparking a meaningful conversation with parents can be difficult (especially if the relationship is somewhat strained). By turning these questions into a fun or a philosophical game, you can gather the family around and organically learn how your parents would like to be remembered after they pass on. You never know – it may just bring you all closer together. That’s the goal, after all!


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